Yesterday I have been asked from one of my friends if I could acquire a super power (Batman or Spiderman type) what type of superpower I would like to have.
This is a difficult question for me to answer as I want to acquire more than one super powers. (LOL) But if I had only one shot I would like to become Resilient.
Most people they do not fully grasp what resilience means so I am going to give you the "formal" definition
According to EverydayHealth dot com resilience is :
The ability to withstand adversity and bounce back from difficult life events. Being resilient does not mean that people don’t experience stress, emotional upheaval, and suffering. Some people equate resilience with mental toughness, but demonstrating resilience includes working through emotional pain and suffering.
Who else will agree with me that this is a critical power to obtain especially these days? (hands up please).
Resilience is important for your overall health, wellbeing, success, marriage, family life and everything else you can imagine.
Life is not a straight line we all know that. Our ability to overcome adversity is the one skill that will make us or break us as they say.
How do I know if I am resilient?
If you have managed to bounce back from challenging situations, stronger and wiser then you have high resilient levels.
Resilience is not a quality you obtain overnight. Usually we don't become resilient by choice. We become resilient as our supportive mechanisms are working hard to help us survive. It's our survival mechanism that keep us going.
Wouldn't be nice though to become resilient by choice? How can I do that? (Thank you for asking).
Getting emotionally and physically prepared for challenging situations life may throw your way is a great starting point.
Preparing yourself (and your family on that matter) for the worst case scenario, physically and mentally will equip you with power you never believed you had. Being prepared and having your support systems in place is not only for the "control freaks" or the "weirdo's" we all have in our families.
It is for people who are wise enough to understand that life is not a straight line as I said before.
It's astonishing that in the Gospel Jesus was mentioning the phrase "be aware" "be prepared" hundreds of times to his disciples. Even though he was teaching them to have faith that God will supply and provide at the same time He was preaching and teaching Awareness and Preparedness.
Does this rings a bell?
Types of Resilience
There is physical resilience and emotional resilience. During hardships such wars, natural disasters our physical resilience is critical. But it has to go side by side with our emotional resilience.
A divorce, a death of a loved one, sickness, job loss, financial crisis are a few of the situations that our emotional resilience gets the upper hand.
What can I do to build up my resilience levels?
You can start from this moment to build up your support mechanisms. If you are not feeling so sure about your marriage, create a plan B for your life if you get divorced.
The same applies to any other aspect such a job loss, or financial hardships, a death of a loved one etc.
Being resilient doesn't mean that you DO NOT feel the pain or the stress. It means that those emotions are not knocking you down. It means that beyond the chaos there is a whisper that says "you will get over this". If you had your alternative plans in place you will find yourself stronger and more capable to deal with these challenges (or any other that may show up).
Thank you for taking the time to read this blog. It really means the world to me. If you liked this article share it with your friends.
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